Coach, Qualified Practitioner of the Grinberg Method and Systemic Psychotherapist in Berlín, Prenzlauer Berg
The ability to change, to move and breathe more freely lies within ourselves.
Topics, with which you can come to me for counseling:
Self confidence, Self-esteem
Do you often feel insecure, dissatisfied and at odds with yourself? Do you often compare yourself to other people? Do you have a self-image characterized by negative assumptions, which restricts you and sometimes makes it difficult for you to build up contacts and relationships? For example, do you think you are not as interesting, smart, handsome, talented, lovable, articulate or (please insert) as other people around you? Do you often feel like you're doing mediocre even though you've tried to do your best?
Do you wonder why you are single when everyone else around you is in relationships and starts a family? Can you get along very well on your own, but sometimes loneliness overcomes you? Have you experienced repeated disappointments in love affairs, which only remained affairs? Do you wonder whether you are actually capable of being in relationships or whether you are afraid of commitment? Do you sometimes ask yourself why you find people attractive who are not good for you or who are already taken?
Do you feel down and sad? Do you lack joy and a sense that your life has meaning? Do you have the feeling that you are only functioning but that you no longer have any emotions? Would you like a new perspective but don't know where to start?
Depression can have a variety of causes, vary in severity, and be of short or long duration.
Commitment phobia is generally referred to as a deep fear of commitment, closeness, intimacy and self-commitment in a relationship. The term describes the behavior of people who either do not enter into romantic relationships or keep their relationship with their sexual partners in limbo and do not commit themselves to the relationship as unreservedly as the partner would like.
The term co-dependency is colloquially used as a synonym for mutual emotional dependency, for example when you feel a strong emotional bond with one another, which at the same time has something constricting, and despite the desire for more autonomy or separation, you are unable to break away from the other because the fear or sense of obligation is too deep.
Do you describe yourself as a harmony addict? Do you tend to put your will aside so it doesn't compete with other people's will? Do you get scared quickly when there is a conflict and do you try to please everyone? Does it unsettle you when someone close to you has a completely different opinion from yours? Do you sometimes feel left out or not seen but prefer to say nothing to avoid starting a fight and then suffer the alienation that sets in?
Realizing projects (professional, artistic, personal)
Projects that are close to our hearts require determination, courage, focus, planning and sometimes perseverance, especially when it comes to something we want to do on our own: write a book, make a film, conceive a play , found a startup, create a place where something happens... In order to keep clarity and focus in the different stages of your project and not to give up in the face of difficulties or obstacles, it can be helpful to get professional support.
If you do not know exactly what could fulfill you professionally, if you are looking for something new, would like to reorient yourself or are striving for a change in your existing job, it can be helpful to look at your current situation, your goals, difficulties and possibilities within the framework of coaching sessions...
Emotional and physical pain
The way we deal with pain has a major impact on the duration and intensity of the pain. I can try to push the pain away, ignore it, react defensively or angry at it, avoid it, make myself hard in order not to feel it, or develop a protective attitude in order to be able to live well with the pain. Another option when dealing with pain, is trying to listen to what the pain is telling me about my posture and being attentive to what the pain “wants from me"...
Concentration and focus
Are you unfocused and forgetful? Do you often lose the common thread when writing, speaking and thinking? Do you often postpone tasks until later or do you lack perspective in your diverse tasks? Do you feel like you have too much on your mind at once and that your mental load has reached a limit?...
Stress and nervousness
Stress and nervousness put a strain on the nervous system and can reduce the quality of life, affect the quality of sleep, have a negative impact on relationships and family and, if prolonged, can also lead to illness. If you feel like you're suffering from persistent negative stress, that is, stress that's unrelated to positive excitement and the achievement of a specific goal in the near future, it can be helpful to take a closer look at your life circumstances...
Anxiety, fear and panic attacks
Fear and panic can have a paralyzing effect, lead to loneliness and limit personal freedom enormously. People who suffer from social phobia, for example, often avoid situations in which they meet several people. The consequences can be loneliness, a reduced circle of friends and constant doubts about one's own social skills. Fear of being embarrassed, having nothing to say, being bored, and feeling strained in social situations discourages people with social anxiety from making or maintaining existing relationships...
When you are in a crisis, you may feel lost, disoriented or faced with insurmountable tasks and unable of making a decision or acting. You may feel alone, helpless or at a loss and see no way out to your situation. You may also not know exactly what is causing your crisis and why you are feeling miserable...
After the loss or separation of a loved one or the end of a relationship with someone we cared about, it can be difficult to find your bearings and refocus in your life. It seems impossible at times to continue as before. The pain can be overwhelming and we may fear that we are just not able to handle it...
Do you suffer from one or more physical symptoms and wonder if it could have something to do with your current life situation? Have you already had a medical examination and no specific cause was found? Have you been taking medication for a long time and would like to try a holistic approach alongside with it?
Physical symptoms often have a specific physical cause and can also be a sign from the body that you should take care of your mental balance...
Do you consider yourself an introvert? Do you often enjoy being alone because then you don't have to represent anything to anyone? Does it stress you out if you don't have a moment of retreat during the day? Do you quickly feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed when you are in a group? Do you only thrive when you are alone with one person? Are you quickly unsure whether you are liked? Do you think you're boring because you're most comfortable at home? Do you sometimes wish you were smarter, funnier, louder, and more carefree around people?...
Do you often think about food or about the next meal? Are you watching exactly what and how much you eat? Do you find it difficult to eat with people, spontaneously or differently than planned? Are you only able to eat certain foods because other foods make you anxious or uncomfortable? Do you need to be in total control of your food?...
Strongly dominant negative emotions
Do you often feel shame and don't know why? Do you get angry and short-tempered easily? Are you easily annoyed by other people and do you tend to judge them? Do you tend to devalue your partner and hold them responsible for many things? Do you quickly hurt other people with thoughtless statements and often regret it afterwards? Are you easily jealous, hurt, or afraid of being abandoned? Do you find it difficult to trust and let go?...
Desire to have children, ambivalence
Do you wish to get pregnant, but it hasn't worked out so far? Have you tried different ways to get pregnant but failed? Do you feel down because it doesn’t work for you but seems to work so easily for others? All the women around you suddenly become pregnant, but you secretly feel envy and sadness instead of rejoicing with them, and on top of that you feel ashamed of your negative feelings? Would you like to finally finish with the stressful topic but don't dare to "give up" your attempts? Are you afraid that your partnership will be burdened or threatened by the absence of a biological child?...
Conversation and Body-Work combined
As a systemic therapist, coach and body therapist with over 17 years of professional practise, I am experienced in combining conversation and body-centered methods in a meaningful and efficient way. The combination of conversation and body work has proven to be highly effective for my clients because body-oriented methods enable direct access to the experiences and emotions stored in the body, i.e. to the physical dimension of our perception, our thinking and feeling
Clients who come to see me include psychotherapists, psychiatrists, neurologists and coaches who are aware of this correlation and therefore seek the connections to the body in their work and in their personal therapeutic processes.