Self Esteem, Self Worth

Do you lack self-confidence in some situations?

  • Do you often feel insecure, dissatisfied and at odds with yourself?
  • Do you often compare yourself to other people?
  • Do you have a self-image characterized by negative assumptions, which restricts you and sometimes makes it difficult for you to build up contacts and relationships? For example, do you think you are not as interesting, smart, handsome, talented, lovable, articulate or (please insert) as other people around you?
  • Do you often feel like you're doing mediocre even though you've tried to do your best?
  • Are you afraid of being an impostor and that it's only a matter of time before others will realize it?
  • Are you quick to apologize for anything?
  • Are you sometimes unable to take part in a conversation because you don't think your own perspective is worth mentioning, but afterwards you are frustrated that you didn't say anything?
  • Do you often not believe other people when they compliment you?
  • Do you sometimes feel alone and unloved? 

How can I boost my self-confidence?

In what tone we speak to ourselves internally, how kind and appreciative we are with ourselves, whether we devalue ourselves or accompany ourselves lovingly and compassionately, whether we measure ourselves against unattainable role models or are aware of our own abilities and needs, whether we allow ourselves to make mistakes or demand perfection, our confidence either withers or thrives. How respectful do I treat myself? Do I focus on what's imperfect about me, or do I focus on what I like about myself, what my strengths are, what makes me lovable, and what really interests me? The brain researcher Gerald Hüther says that lovelessness makes the psyche ill and weakens the body, and in his book "Lovelessness Makes You Sick" gives a number of clear examples. Hüther explains the neuroplasticity of the brain, i.e. the malleability and ability to learn into old age, and advocates learning and practicing a more loving relationship with oneself, with other people and the world that surrounds us.

In coaching sessions and / or therapy you can learn to find a good contact with yourself and to accept yourself as you are. Learning to unmask old beliefs can help you stop being afraid to be who you are. With this new perspective on yourself, you no longer feel alone, but in good hands with yourself. This requires courage and some perseverance, but you will not regret it.